The english dictionary defines the word INDISPENSABLE as ‘absolutely necessary, requisite, incapable of being disregarded or neglected’. In plain terms, if you are indispensable to your spouse or company, no matter what, you will never be replaced.
In my idea, that’s another word for optical illusion. In this post, I’ll concentrate on 2 scenarios where people get to feel indispensable.
1. The lovers. In this case,the guys are usually the indispensables. They are most often than not carried away by their egoism and complacency, expecting the lady( or beau/mistress) would always be in dire,unrepentant need of them. Although to a large extent, the ladies make the men feel that way.
You know why he feels indispensable? Because he gets shouts at you today,you just sulk and lock up in a corner. Because he abuses you verbally, and all you do is ignore him for a day. Because he hits you, and all you accept is 3 days plea from his friends. Because he doesn’t spend on you, and makes it up with mind blowing sex. So the brother just adapts to you accepting his flaws( did I say flaws?I meant bullshit) and then you have developed a thick skin for those things.
Ok,I’m not even trying to make the ladies feel bad once again. I’ll just face the guys. For you all who have gotten so relaxed, stopped showing her some good love,or springing up suprises, a dude like me might just be around the corner, waiting to pounce on sister caro.
2. The workaholics. Many of us,yes,including my lazy self, are so glued to our jobs. We work 14 hours a day,and even when we get home, we still work,or do something work related.
At one end, its usually the fault of the firm. They make us feel a lot needs to be done, and good quality can’t be jeopardized. Many ‘reasons’ and mouth watering ‘opportunities’ are painted to us, and we feel that firm is the best place to be.
On the other hand, we are to blame. We have constructed our life styles and minds that our work place just can’t afford to let us go for a minute or hour or day.
Have you considered the effect on your body system if you break down? Do you remember how many dates you’ll miss out and further you push your wedding day? Me, I must marry early ooo.
Ok,you are married, is it till your son calls you ‘aunty’?
To make matters worse, when the chips go down and the sun sets, you immediate junior at work would rock you ‘indispensable’ chair.
Do the needful, not at your detriment. A few late nights, a few sacrifices, a balanced work-life habit, and a cheerful,easy going attitude.
To my ladies, if the dude has signs of feeling irreplaceable, either you leave , or make his heart skip.
” If you’ve not made you man’s heart skip in a week, you ain’t playing your role well”
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